Dare 12

Love lets the other win.  But it’s not just about letting others win, it is also about being willing to compromise.

And this doesn’t just apply to marriage, it applies to all relationships.  More often than not an argument or disagreement would be over if we said ‘I’m willing to go your way on this on” or something like that.  So often during an argument it becomes more about pride and the desire to be right than the actual issue that started the argument.

I have a good friend who has been married for over 50 years and she told me the secrets for her is to pick her fights because most things aren’t worth the results a fight would bring about – from hurt feelings to anger & resentment to separation & divorce or physical harm.

Pride causes a lot of fences not to be mended.  It’s amazing what power a simple 'I'm sorry” has to restore negative situations caused by a fight no one can even remember what the fight was about – look at the Hayfields & the McCoy's – a feud that went on for generations and know one could remember why they were not supposed to like each other – how sad is that?

I’ve learned I have the choice to be right or to be happy, I choose Happy!  You know what they say “Don’t sweat the small stuff- and it’s all small stuff.”  My Dad used to say “50 years from now it won’t make any difference” and the truth in most cases is tomorrow it won’t make any difference.

One of the most important relationships in my life is with my sister and over the years we have had are fair share of disagreements.  As time has passed I’ve learned to let her win, what difference does it make.  We all have our opinions and even though she may ‘win’ I still have my opinion.  I recall a saying – ‘a man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still’  So why waste the time & energy.

I choose Happiness over being right.  What's your choice?

Until Next time…