Love seeks to understand
We love to learn about all the things that interest us, sports, gardening, boating, golfing, cooking, our favorite teams or writers. The list goes on & on – we are willing to invest the time & make the effort to learn about the things we are interested in, the things we love to do. We read about the sports, we watch the cooking shows, we take classes, we spend money on our hobbies.
But what about the people we love? How well do we know them? How much time do we invest in getting to learning about them? How much do we really know them – their like & dislikes, their habits & hobbies, their fears & struggles, their hopes & dreams? They may react differently to certain situations than we do and we can’t figure out why.
Could it be some of the problems we have relating to our loved ones are because we don’t understand them. And this applies to everyone we love, not just our mate. There are times when my sister drives me crazy and I have the choice to let her actions push my buttons or I can take the opportunity to engage her in conversation and try to learn to get to know her a little better so the next time I will understand her actions and it won’t drive me crazy.
It’s amazing how taking a little time to get to know someone instead of jumping to conclusions can totally shift the relationship. Having a deeper understanding of my loved ones will make the relationships stronger and make it possible for me to know how to be a better friend and how to support them in their time of need and to love them unconditionally.
Until next time…
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